This morning on public TV there was a reporter talking about big ideas like International Industry, the American Economy, how we handle our great minds as compared to other countries and so on. He so accurately described one of my core beliefs that I can’t get it out of my head since. When he started talking about some of the American students he had met recently with truly remarkable and revolutionary scientific and industrial solutions to our biggest global problems he made a brilliant point. He said that it was “like these students had somehow not gotten the memo” – the memo to hate the President or that we are in a disastrous recession – you’ve heard it - that America is in the toilet.
These students, that “aren’t getting the memo” are going to cure cancer, revolutionize industry and solve our energy crisis. I believe if these students can take this idea to a personal level they will enjoy their children, truly connect with their spouses and find peace in their religious and personal choices their entire lives.
I think this idea is why so many people responded to the Daily Show’s hugely successful “Rally to Restore Sanity” held in DC on October 30th. The ads for the entertainment event / political rally read, “We’re looking for the people who think shouting is annoying, counterproductive, and terrible for your throat; who feel that the loudest voices shouldn’t be the only ones that get heard; and who believe that the only time it’s appropriate to draw a Hitler mustache on someone is when that person is actually Hitler. Ours is a rally for the people who’ve been too busy to go to rallies, who actually have lives and families and jobs (or are looking for jobs) — not so much the Silent Majority as the Busy Majority. If we had to sum up the political view of our participants in a single sentence… we couldn’t. That’s sort of the point.”
An estimated 215,000 people attended, some just for fun, and others that were frustrated with the people in their life that seem to make living by and broadcasting “the memo” their full time job. These negative voices seem to be multiplying by the moment and if it isn’t the cable guy ruining ‘Aunt Sally’s’ day then it is the government or the weather or my favorite inanimate objects - like cars and houses.
I try, very hard, to “not get the memo” – you know the one that has been handed to me a million times since birth – it says things like:
- You ALWAYS have to choose a side. When someone disagrees with “your side” they are wrong. Pointing it out to them is the right thing to do.
- Live with a sense of injustice and unfairness. Never forget to complain about it.
- Complain and finger point to avoid hard work or when you are tired or sick or when things simply aren’t going your way.
- You can’t do it and it is because of someone else.
When I think about my girls I hope that even though the world will hand them its own memo a million times ours will still be loud enough to come through:
- Work very hard and not only at your job.
- Enjoy your family. Make time for them - lots of time for them.
- Remember children are only little for the blink of an eye.
- Push yourself. Give yourself a break. Find the balance here.
- Find ways to really connect with the people most important to you as often as possible.
- Make choices that are absent of fear or stress.
- Be bold. Be honest. Be kind. Be sincere. Be patient.
**I have written a few posts like this one and tagged them all ‘the modern women’.